Your Six Core Needs - Significance and Importance, Part 5 of 7

Significance and Importance

Every person places different weight on the first four needs – some need more connection, others – more variety. But the special thing about significance is that all other needs naturally lead to, and contribute to its fulfillment. If, for example, you get a pretty, fragrant bunch of flowers for your lady, you give her the surprise of variety, which in turn is a reminder and proof of how much you love her. But the thought, the intent, the gesture ultimately tell her that she is special, and it is a confirmation of her significance and importance – in your eyes, and in the eyes of the universe. Same – when you pay her a compliment – for her cooking, her dress, the impeccable way she organises her wardrobe…

And vice versa: if you acknowledge your man for his achievements – whether it’s his career, the way he played tennis the other day, or that he always looks after and protects his family, you are not only showing him love and affection. You are re-iterating to him that he has value, that he is worthy of being “the head” of the family, to consider himself a man of status and standing. Because when you are worthy and significant, you know you belong, and you know you are good enough. Good enough for the role you have in life, for the people you choose to surround yourself with.

Even more amazingly, a person’s significance feeds not only on the love and acknowledgement received. Your significance cup gets full also when you GIVE significance to others! When you listen to others, appreciate their contribution and start noticing the positive things in them, every little achievement, you give them attention and a feeling of completion that reflects back on you. And then you, in your turn, feel fulfilled.

So, be open to these little discoveries. Be observant and present. Be both a giver and receiver. Tell your partner how great they look, laugh at their joke, look them with admiration. Show them, time and time again, that he is your king, that she is your queen. And, just like a champagne tower, this attitude of attention, acknowledgement and gratitude will gradually fill the glasses of all your other needs.

Elena Alexandrova-Long

Your Coach to Success

www.envisionlifedesign.com.au

Relationships - In the Lead-up to Valentine's Day

Relationships - are you looking forward to the Day?

I love Valentine’s Day. Not because of the witty cards, the beautiful, fragrant (if possible), picture-like red roses and specially wrapped chocolate varieties, or exclusive dinners – either at a fancy restaurant, or cooked at home, with love and a nicely laid table. I love and enjoy it because this day serves as the reminder to the modern men, and women, of the thing that is most important in the life of human beings: LOVE. Love and connection.

Don't get me wrong - I do love roses

On this day, or the lead-up to it, couples rekindle their feelings, which have faded in the year past because they took them for granted. Or call it quits, because suddenly one, or both partners, realise this is no longer worth fighting for. Single people, too, do an audit and start questioning how, and why, once again, they have no one to give flowers to, or expect from… Or decide they are better off not celebrating, as they don’t need anyone in order to feel happy, successful, fulfilled.

Or do they?

Love. All areas in our lives evolve around our relationships. Everything we do and achieve is ultimately a reflection of the state of our intimate connection with someone special. A stable relationship filled with love does not tolerate stress – at work or home, anxiety, contradiction, poor health, broken dreams. Instead, it nurtures a positive, creative, fulfilling environment. Have you seen a person in a healthy relationship who is cranky at work? Or a successful person whose love life has fallen apart. If your answer is “yes, think twice? Even if that’s you, what could you be hiding from yourself?

Re-connect ... only if it's worth it

In the couple of weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day, I will be sharing videos and posts on what creates outstanding relationships. And one of the secret group of ingredients are Tony Robbins’ SIX CORE NEEDS.

Because a person is complete when all of these needs are met in their life:

1.       Certainty

2.       Variety and uncertainty

3.       Love and connection

4.       Significance and importance

5.       Growth

6.       Contribution

And who would be better placed to meet these needs, if not your loving partner, or true soulmate…

Elena Alexandrova-Long

Your Coach to Success

www.envisionlifedesign.com.au

Your Daily Quote - Forgiveness

The truth is, in most cases we choose not to forgive because we want to be right. And even more, we secretly enjoy being a victim, being important.
Elena Alexandrova

Your Daily Quote - Relatiohships

A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb goes, out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb.