Significance and Importance
Every person places different weight on the first four needs
– some need more connection, others – more variety. But the special thing about
significance is that all other needs naturally lead to, and contribute to its
fulfillment. If, for example, you get a pretty, fragrant bunch of flowers for
your lady, you give her the surprise of variety, which in turn is a reminder
and proof of how much you love her. But the thought, the intent, the gesture
ultimately tell her that she is special, and it is a confirmation of her
significance and importance – in your eyes, and in the eyes of the universe.
Same – when you pay her a compliment – for her cooking, her dress, the impeccable
way she organises her wardrobe…
And vice versa: if you acknowledge your man for his
achievements – whether it’s his career, the way he played tennis the other day,
or that he always looks after and protects his family, you are not only showing
him love and affection. You are re-iterating to him that he has value, that he
is worthy of being “the head” of the family, to consider himself a man of
status and standing. Because when you are worthy and significant, you know you
belong, and you know you are good enough. Good enough for the role you have in
life, for the people you choose to surround yourself with.
Even more amazingly, a person’s significance feeds not only
on the love and acknowledgement received. Your significance cup gets full also
when you GIVE significance to others! When you listen to others, appreciate
their contribution and start noticing the positive things in them, every little
achievement, you give them attention and a feeling of completion that reflects
back on you. And then you, in your turn, feel fulfilled.
So, be open to these little discoveries. Be observant and present.
Be both a giver and receiver. Tell your partner how great they look, laugh at
their joke, look them with admiration. Show them, time and time again, that he is your king, that she is your queen. And, just like a champagne tower, this
attitude of attention, acknowledgement and gratitude will gradually fill the
glasses of all your other needs.
Elena Alexandrova-Long
Your Coach to Success
www.envisionlifedesign.com.au
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