Your Daily Quote - Confidence

You must expect great things of yourself before you can do them.
Michael Jordan

4 Life Coaching Techniques That Get Results

By Jeffrey T. Sooey

The right coaching techniques get the right results - but what are the right coaching techniques? Though different coaches may prefer and use different techniques in their coaching practices, there are a few that can elevate your game to the next level.

Wouldn't you like to generate breakthrough results with every one of your clients? Wouldn't you like to have a deep impact on each client? Of course you would.

Is Success Possible With Every Client?

Every coach wants to be 100 percent successful with every client, but it's probably not a legitimate possibility. Sometimes the client/coach chemistry doesn't work. Sometimes you just can't help a client find the outcomes they want. It happens to every coach.

Success is not possible with every client. But, success is possible with most clients if you use the right coaching techniques.

4 Life Coaching Techniques That Get Results

Ask the client what they want. This may seem obvious, but it's not always as simple as it seems. Your job as a coach is to help your clients find outcomes. However, if you don't know what outcomes they are seeking, you can't help them find them, can you? You must ask specific questions and receive specific answers. This is the only way to identify and clarify your client's goals. Don't ask vague questions or accept vague responses - be specific. Be very specific!

Believe. The magic of believing seems like some sports team slogan, but it can really work on your clients. But, first of all, they have to believe that you believe. They must trust that you believe in yourself and that you believe in them. This comes from the confidence you exhibit as a coach.

Active Listening. I'm sure you've heard this one before. Active listening is such an important component of coaching that every coach has at least a vague notion of what it entails. But, there are three crucial elements of active listening that should be used with each client and in every coaching session. Remember EFP - encourage, feedback, and paraphrase. You should always encourage the client to speak and act; you should provide feedback at regular intervals, and you should paraphrase what the client has just said to show the client you are listening.

Use the word "Instead." Yes - this is one word is a coaching technique. Sometimes finding a solution to a problem seems impossible. Sometimes an outcome just appears to be out of reach. The worst thing you can do with a client is to stay stuck in a rut. Sometimes the best thing you can do is use the word "instead." What other goal does the client want to achieve instead? What do they want instead? You get the idea - sometimes it is better to leave one issue and work on another one. You can go back to the initial issue in another session.

A Million and One Coaching Techniques

Though the four techniques above are great at getting results, there are probably a million and one other coaching techniques. Trial and error is the only way to find out what works with your style and with your clients. As you gain experience as a coach, you'll learn more of these techniques. You figure out what works for you and what doesn't. The more techniques you have in your toolbox, the more likely you'll have the right tool to find the ideal outcome for the next client who walks through your door.

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Your Daily Quote - Never Give Up

If you really believe in what you're doing, work hard, take nothing personally and if something blocks one route, find another. Never give up.

Laurie Notaro

YOUR Limiting Beliefs (and they are yours to keep, unless you decide not to!)

We already spoke about values and beliefs, and how they shape the foundations of who you are. They determine the way you perceive the world, how you react and what action you take, in order to achieve results. And we gave an extensive list of values where you can identify your highest ones, your top priorities in life.

When you look at beliefs, how much do we realise that we are surrounded by limiting beliefs, lurking behind every corner. Yes, we do occasionally recognise that we say words of self-discouragement: I'm going to botch up this presentation, I know it!

But how often do we say to ourselves those seemingly harmless, habitual phrases: "Silly me!"

"This will never work!"

"I'll never get this job!"

“I’ll never learn to cook.”

"I'm so clumsy, I'll probably break something!", 

or even "I'm gonna be late again!"

And these turn into self-fulfilling prophecies - you become unfailingly, chronically, late for every meeting. You always drop things; you never dare to have fun improvising and cook a meal. These formulas for failure block so much of your positive energy, of your potential!

I would go even further and claim that Limiting beliefs, and constantly imposing them on ourselves and others, are one of the unrecognised diseases of the 20th, and 21st centuries!

How often do you hear parents on the street yelling after their children: "Don't run, you'll trip! You'll fall down and break your head!" What a kind, caring, encouraging thing to say to your child, NOT!, over and over again...

Or: "You ain't good for nothing! You can't tie your own shoes."  And the list goes on and on.

What limiting beliefs do to your unconscious mind is to constantly build up a feeling of defeat, confirm your expectations for defeat, and ultimately they make you fit for defeat, instead of success.

Probably if I asked you right now to give me a list of your values, you would come up with three, four, or more ideas, straight away. But if I asked you: “What are your limiting beliefs?”, you wouldn’t have the answer off the top of your head.

So, here is my challenge for you: during the next three days, watch yourself, watch your language. What do you say to yourself – what everyday self-talks can you identify as limiting beliefs?

And if you want to take it up a notch, how about actually counting how many times you tell yourself things like, “I always lose stuff”, “I’m gonna be late again”, “I’m exhausted”, or thinking first thing in the morning: “I can’t be bothered to do any exercises TODAY.” Or when you get stuck with your report, or task, you repeat to yourself: “I can never finish these things on time.” 

See, those nasty little power -, confidence - and success - sabotagers are hiding everywhere!

SO, share your examples here. Maybe you will even come up with some original ideas of how to stop yourself from success… And the more you repeat them, the better you become in developing the skills to fulfill those beliefs.

What do we do next? The next step for you is to reframe these boycotting expressions, and instead of saying: “I’ll be late again!”, you will say: “Today is the first of those numerous occasions when I will be on time. Punctuality is my middle name.”

Or saying: “I can easily go up those three flights of stairs. I am becoming fitter and fitter every single day!”

How about that as a self-fulfilling prophecy!

Believe in yourself!