Your Six Core Needs - Love and Connection, part 4 of 7

When we talk about love and connection between partners, between lovers, we mean much more than the intimate physical attraction and experience. Sex and lust are a great spice to the relationship, but the foundation is much deeper and more profound.

There are two important things, therefore, that we need to remind ourselves about the need of love and connection:

-          It is met at many levels – spiritual, intellectual, physical

-          It is met best not only when receiving, but when giving, as well.

If your partner is your true mate, or soul mate, they love talking to you, sharing experiences, opinions, feelings. Sometimes even challenging you, to test whether the spark still works, whether you will respond. Whether it will be a shared joke, teasing, or luring – it’s a secret game that only the two people privy to it can understand, and play according to the unspoken rules.

When your partner shares – experiences from the day, impressions of the world, their perspective, how often do you make an attempt and are present, and listen – with all your attention? Do you make yourself available for them? Put aside everything you do for 5 minutes, show empathy and act as if you are reading their mind? Let them know that you are there for them, that you will stand by them. And then, only then, start to look for solutions – together. Because often we want the dearest person to just listen, and be present. A great place to connect is among nature, during a short walk together.

When you are intimate with each other, do you have an interlude? Because, as it turns out, men also are romantic in nature. Both sides like a cosy atmosphere – nice dinner, gentle music, candles… Have a date night every week!

And the beautiful thing about connecting is, the more you give, the more trust and warmth you get, the more the passion deepens. How often do you tell your partner: “I love you!” like you mean it? Look them in the eyes, feel the passion and gratitude that fill your heart, and say it with a smile: “I love you!”, every morning, every night.

Elena Alexandrova-Long

Your Coach to Success

www.envisionlifedesign.com.au