Your Daily Quote - Happiness

Happiness is perfume, you can’t pour it on somebody else without getting a few drops on yourself.

James Van Der Zee

Relationships - In the Lead-up to Valentine's Day

Relationships - are you looking forward to the Day?

I love Valentine’s Day. Not because of the witty cards, the beautiful, fragrant (if possible), picture-like red roses and specially wrapped chocolate varieties, or exclusive dinners – either at a fancy restaurant, or cooked at home, with love and a nicely laid table. I love and enjoy it because this day serves as the reminder to the modern men, and women, of the thing that is most important in the life of human beings: LOVE. Love and connection.

Don't get me wrong - I do love roses

On this day, or the lead-up to it, couples rekindle their feelings, which have faded in the year past because they took them for granted. Or call it quits, because suddenly one, or both partners, realise this is no longer worth fighting for. Single people, too, do an audit and start questioning how, and why, once again, they have no one to give flowers to, or expect from… Or decide they are better off not celebrating, as they don’t need anyone in order to feel happy, successful, fulfilled.

Or do they?

Love. All areas in our lives evolve around our relationships. Everything we do and achieve is ultimately a reflection of the state of our intimate connection with someone special. A stable relationship filled with love does not tolerate stress – at work or home, anxiety, contradiction, poor health, broken dreams. Instead, it nurtures a positive, creative, fulfilling environment. Have you seen a person in a healthy relationship who is cranky at work? Or a successful person whose love life has fallen apart. If your answer is “yes, think twice? Even if that’s you, what could you be hiding from yourself?

Re-connect ... only if it's worth it

In the couple of weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day, I will be sharing videos and posts on what creates outstanding relationships. And one of the secret group of ingredients are Tony Robbins’ SIX CORE NEEDS.

Because a person is complete when all of these needs are met in their life:

1.       Certainty

2.       Variety and uncertainty

3.       Love and connection

4.       Significance and importance

5.       Growth

6.       Contribution

And who would be better placed to meet these needs, if not your loving partner, or true soulmate…

Elena Alexandrova-Long

Your Coach to Success

www.envisionlifedesign.com.au

Your Daily Quote - Relationships

Stay single until someone actually complements your life in a way that makes it better than to not be single. Otherwise, it’s not worth it.

Unknown

Tony Robbins - Emotional Fitness

How to step up and become emotionally fit, psychologically strong?

Three simple mandatory steps:

1. See it as it is

2. See it better than it is

3. Make it the way you see it

Your Daily Quote - Strong Will/Resolve

"Never give up until you get the skill. Don't miss the chance to grow, and RESOLVE that you will pay the price until you learn, grow, change, become.
Then you'll discover some of life's best treasures, when you pay that price."
- Jim Rohn

Meditation - Which Type Is Right for You, part 7 of 7

Type 6: Contemplative Inquiry

This most sophisticated form of meditation is also the simplest. Conceptual meditation, or contemplative inquiry, focuses on one specific topic, only. Just one concept on which to meditate. Known as the “intellectual form of meditation”, the contemplation of one idea is an art practiced by scientists and inventors, as well as advanced meditators.

What is typical of this meditation is that the mind gravitates to a single thought that is simple in nature. Even focusing on your breath actually includes many levels and aspects - you may feel the physical experience of breathing, but also appreciate its enlightenment nature. Simplifying the mind is a main, and maybe most difficult goal, and it requires the appropriate amount of time. When you combine this with an open heart, you achieve the ultimate, as Robert Butera puts it: “… the person who has a sophisticated understanding of life on the one hand but who is able to remain simple, humble, and with warmth in their heart is the ultimate human being.”

And here is an example exercise, as a starting point to contemplative inquiry. See how it appeals to you, and if it does resonate, start researching, and practise consistently.

Exercise: Relaxation on Emptiness

Sit a lie in a relaxed position and unplug from technology for 5-10 minutes. Imagine all the thoughts, pressures, stresses, and distractions leaving your mind slowly and gradually. You feel a sense of peace in a state of emptiness. You may imagine an element of emptiness in your mind or a release in your heart. As soon as a thought enters, go back to the physical feeling of relaxation! Feel surrounded by emptiness, enveloped in emptiness, filled with nothingness. Breathe in space, exhale space. Allow thoughts to pass and notice the tranquility that exists between thoughts. Notice everything drifting away into pure being.

Elena Alexandrova

Your Coach to Success

www.envisionlifedesign.com.au

Source:

Butera, Robert, “Meditation for Your Life”

Your Daily Quote - Spending Time

“It’s not about time, it’s about choices. How are you spending your choices?”
–Beverly Adamo