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Your Daily Quote - Filter Your Thoughts

Negative thoughts and feelings – anger, sadness, regret - are like junk food to your mind. And they don’t even taste nice… Push them away by replacing them with affirmations and gratitude.
Elena Long

When You Are Not Sure Which Way Next

When you are not sure what direction to take next in your life, try one (or all) of the following:

1. Close your eyes and spend 5+ minutes in quiet contemplation. Note where your consciousness (or the subconscious) takes you.

2. Spend 20 minutes writing down everything you think you want to achieve in life. Then see which theme(s) come up most often.

3. Seek advice from the person in the mirror. What do you see in their eyes? What is the next step? What do you see their potential to be?

Elena Long

Your Coach to Success

Your Daily Quote - Life

Life is a song - sing it. Life is a game - play it. Life is a challenge - meet it. Life is a dream - realise it. Life is a sacrifice - offer it. Life is love - enjoy it.

Sai Baba

432 DNA Tuning and the Nazi-ization of Music

by Brendan D. Murphy
It’s blatantly obvious to me, after over a decade of investigation, that humankind is the (largely unwitting) victim of a frequency war on our consciousness that has been waged for decades, if not millennia. The goal has clearly been to keep us as sheep-like, gullible, and subservient as possible—through multifarious means. In modern history in particular, there has been what Dr. Len Horowitz has referred to as the strategic “militarization” of music. This happened in 1939 when the tuning of A=440 Hz was adopted in the world of music. In 1910 an earlier push to effect the same change was met with limited success. Three decades later, the British Standards Institute (BSI) adopted the A=440Hz standard promoted by the Rockefeller-Nazi consortium—“at the precise time WWII preparations were being finalized by the petrochemical-pharmaceutical war financiers.”[i]

It is interesting, also, to note that in October 1953, despite the British and Nazi push for the arbitrary A=440 standard (which is “disharmonic” vis à vis the physico-acoustic laws of creation governing reality), a referendum of 23,000 French musicians voted overwhelmingly in favour of A=432Hz.[iii] Many, many musicians, through recent centuries have expressed their strong preference for the A=432 reference pitch. “This tuning was unanimously approved at the Congress of Italian musicians in 1881 and recommended by the physicists Joseph Sauveur and Felix Savart as well as by the Italian scientist Bartolomeo Grassi Landi.”[iv] 

According to preliminary research, analysis, and professional discussions by Walton, Koehler, Reid, et al., on the web, A=440Hz frequency music conflicts with human energy centers3 (i.e., chakras) from the heart to the base of the spine [the lower four]. Alternatively, chakras above the heart are stimulated. Theoretically, the vibration stimulates ego and left-brain function, suppressing the “heart-mind,” intuition and creative inspiration.[v]

For the full article, go to:

http://globalfreedommovement.org/432-dna-tuning-and-the-nazi-ization-of-music/

Thomas Edison - Homeschooled by His Mother

After Thomas Edison’s school teacher called him addled or mentally ill in a letter, Edison’s mother hid the letter from the young inventor and homeschooled him so that he could reach his full potential.

Truth or Fiction?

The Truth:

Many details of an inspirational story about Thomas Edison’s young life are accurate, but they’ve been used to form a fictional narrative about young Edison’s struggles as a student.

The inspirational story begins by recalling how Thomas Edison’s grade school teacher wrote to his mother that Edison was “addled” and wouldn’t be allowed in school anymore. When Edison asked his mother what the letter said, she supposedly replied:

His mother’s eyes were tearful as she read the letter out loud to her child: Your son is a genius. This school is too small for him and doesn’t have enough good teachers for training him. Please teach him yourself.

After many, many years, after Edison’s mother died and he was now one of the greatest inventors of the century, one day he was looking through old family things. Suddenly he saw a folded paper in the corner of a drawer in a desk. He took it and opened it up. On the paper was written: Your son is addled [mentally ill]. We won’t let him come to school any more.

Edison cried for hours and then he wrote in his diary: “Thomas Alva Edison was an addled child that, by a hero mother, became the genius of the century.”

While the idea that Thomas Edison’s mother hid the fact that a schoolteacher had called him “addled” so that he could reach his full potential is inspirational — it’s also false.

First, Thomas Edison was dyslexic, which would have made it difficult for him to succeed in an 1800s classroom. Research on dyslexia didn’t begin until the early 1900s, decades after Edison had left public schools, so little was known about it at the time.

Thomas Edison’s struggles in school have been well documented over the years, as have his teacher’s view that Edison was “addled.” But the idea that Thomas Edison didn’t know that he’d been called addled is false.

The Foundation for Economic Education reports that Edison was well aware of his teacher’s diagnosis, and that he was enraged by it:

In 1854, Reverend G. B. Engle belittled one of his students, seven-year-old Thomas Alva Edison, as “addled.” This outraged the youngster, and he stormed out of the Port Huron, Michigan school, the first formal school he had ever attended. His mother, Nancy Edison, brought him back the next day to discuss the situation with Reverend Engle, but she became angry at his rigid ways. Everything was forced on the kids. She withdrew her son from the school where he had been for only three months and resolved to educate him at home. Although he seems to have briefly attended two more schools, nearly all his childhood learning took place at home.

In the biography, “Thomas Alva Edison: Great American Inventor,” Louise Betts goes into more detail about why young Edison had problems with Reverend Engle’s teaching style:

For a boy who was used to learning things his own way and to playing outside by himself all day long, sitting still in a one-room schoolhouse was pure misery. Tom did not like school one bit. His teacher, the Reverend G. Engle, and his wife made the children learn by memorizing their lessons and repeating them out loud. When a child forgot an answer, or had not studied well enough, Reverend Engle whipped the unfortunate pupil with a leather strap! Mrs. Engle also heartily approved of using the whip as a way of teaching students better study habits. her whippings were often worse than her husband’s!

Tom was confused by Reverend Engle’s way of teaching. He could not learn through fear. Nor could he just sit and memorize. He liked to see things for himself and ask questions. But Reverend Engle grew as exasperated by Tom’s questions as Mr. Edison did. For that reason, Tom Learned very little in his first few months, and his grades were bad. 

Years later, Tom would say of his school experience, “I remember I used to never be able to get along at school. I was always at the foot (bottom) of the class. I used to feel that the teachers did not sympathize with me, and that my father thought I was stupid.”

Then, after Thomas Edison told his mother that his teacher had referred to him as addled, the two of them went to the school in search of an apology, according to his biography:

“My son is not backward!” declared Mrs. Edison, adding, “and I believe I ought to know. I taught children once myself!” Despite her efforts, neither the Reverend nor Mrs Engle would change their opinion of young Tom Edison. But Mrs. Edison was equally strong in her opinion. Finally, she realized what she had to do. 

“All right, Mr.s Edison said, “I am hereby taking my son out of your school.” Tom could hardly believe his ears! “I’ll instruct him at home myself,” he heard her say.

Tom looked up at his mother, this wonderful woman who believed in him. He promised himself that he would make his mother proud of him.

Later in life, Edison said, “My mother was the making of me. She was so true, so sure of me: and I felt I had something to live for, someone I must not disappoint.”

However, there’s no record of Edison’s quote from the inspirational story, “Thomas Alva Edison was an addled child that, by a hero mother, became the genius of the century.”

So, it’s true that Thomas Edison’s teacher called him addled or difficult, that his mother defended and homeschooled him, and that she had a big impact on the man that he became. But the inspirational account of Edison’s mother hiding the teacher’s letter from him and lying about why he was being homeschooled to help him reach his full potential is false.

Source:

http://www.truthorfiction.com/after-a-schoolteacher-called-thomas-edison-addled-his-heroic-mother-stepped-in/

Your Daily Quote - Stress

“I was a little excited but mostly blorft. "Blorft" is an adjective I just made up that means 'Completely overwhelmed but proceeding as if everything is fine and reacting to the stress with the torpor of a possum.' I have been blorft every day for the past seven years.”
-Tina Fey

“We must have a pie. Stress cannot exist in the presence of a pie.” 
― David Mamet

The law of 33% - Tai Lopez TED talk

Be humble, persevere, read more, toughen up.

Your Daily Quote - Formula for Success

“I can't give you a sure-fire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time.” 
― Herbert Bayard Swope

Raise Your Standards, Take Action

Whatever areas of your life you want to improve, if you want anything to change, you have to raise your standards right now!

So take a moment, make a decision and prepare your lists on:

1.       Things you will no longer tolerate in your life

2.       What you expect of yourself and what you will do instead (instead of No.1).

Make a list of ten items, and start acting on them. In two weeks increase to 20, and start implementing the changes.

Because the small steps you take today, the humble, or more brave, degrees you start raising your standards by, will multiply the results month by month, year by year. Think of the amazing outcomes you will have achieved in 10 years! All starting with a small list of ten items – ten things you will no longer tolerate, and TEN that you aspire to.

Elena Long

Your Coach to Success

Your Daily Quote - Your Choice

Quite often we choose not to change, to stay in our “comfort zone”, because we are afraid – of the unknown, of the pain. The truth is, pain is part of life. Suffering, on the other hand, is optional.

It’s your choice.

Do you choose to lift your game?

Contact me today for a free discovery coaching session!

Elena Long

Your coach to success

Your Daily Quote - Success

I never dreamed about success. I worked for it.

Estee Lauder

30 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR KID INSTEAD OF “HOW WAS YOUR DAY?”

by Sara Goldstein

When I picked my son up from his first day of 4th grade, my usual (enthusiastically delivered) question of “how was your day?” was met with his usual (indifferently delivered) “fine.”

Come on! It’s the first day, for crying out loud! Give me something to work with, would you, kid?

The second day, my same question was answered, “well, no one was a jerk.”

That’s good…I guess.

I suppose the problem is my own. That question actually sucks. Far from a conversation starter, it’s uninspired, overwhelmingly open ended, and frankly, completely boring. So as an alternative, I’ve compiled a list of questions that my kid will answer with more than a single word or grunt. In fact, he debated his response to question 8 for at least half an hour over the weekend. The jury’s out until he can organize a foot race.

Questions a kid will answer at the end of a long school day:

1. What did you eat for lunch?
2. Did you catch anyone picking their nose?
3. What games did you play at recess?
4. What was the funniest thing that happened today?
5. Did anyone do anything super nice for you?
6. What was the nicest thing you did for someone else?
7. Who made you smile today?
8. Which one of your teachers would survive a zombie apocalypse? Why?
9. What new fact did you learn today?
10. Who brought the best food in their lunch today? What was it?
11. What challenged you today?
12. If school were a ride at the fair, which ride would it be? Why?
13. What would you rate your day on a scale of 1 to 10? Why?
14. If one of your classmates could be the teacher for the day who would you want it to be? Why?
15. If you had the chance to be the teacher tomorrow, what would you teach the class?
16. Did anyone push your buttons today?
17. Who do you want to make friends with but haven’t yet? Why not?
18. What is your teacher’s most important rule?
19. What is the most popular thing to do at recess?
20. Does your teacher remind you of anyone else you know? How?
21. Tell me something you learned about a friend today.
22. If aliens came to school and beamed up 3 kids, who do you wish they would take? Why?
23. What is one thing you did today that was helpful?
24. When did you feel most proud of yourself today?
25. What rule was the hardest to follow today?
26. What is one thing you hope to learn before the school year is over?
27. Which person in your class is your exact opposite?
28. Which area of your school is the most fun?
29. Which playground skill do you plan to master this year?
30. Does anyone in your class have a hard time following the rules?

Source: 

http://parent.co/30-questions-to-ask-your-kid-instead-of-how-was-your-day/

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success - Deepak Chopra

No. 7 The Law of “Dharma”, or Purpose in Life

Everyone has a purpose in life. A unique gift, a special talent to give to others. And when we blend them with service to others, we experience the ecstasy and exultation of our own spirit, which is the ultimate goal of all goals.

Apply this law in your life by committing to the following steps:

-       Today I will lovingly nurture the god/goddess embryo that lies deep within my soul. I will awaken myself to the deep stillness in my heart

-       I will make a list of my unique talents. Then I will list the things that I love to do while expressing my unique talents. When I use my talents in the service of humanity, I create abundance – in my life, and the lives of others

-       I will ask myself daily: “How can I serve?”, “How can I help?” The answers will allow me to help and serve others with love.

Your Daily Quote - Your Choice

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success - Deepak Chopra

No.6 The Law of Detachment

In detachment lies the wisdom of uncertainty. In it lies the freedom from the past, from the known, which is the prison of conditioning.

When we step into the unknown, into the field of all possibilities, we surrender to the creative mind that orchestrates the dance of the universe.

Apply this law in your life by committing to these actions:

-       I will allow myself and those around me to be as they are. I will not rigidly impose my idea on how things should be.

-       Today I will factor in uncertainty as an essential ingredient of my experience; solutions will spontaneously emerge out of the problem.

-       I will step into the field of infinite possibilities, in excitement and anticipation while I’m open to an infinity of choices.

Your Daily Quote - Determination

Courage, sacrifice, determination, commitment, toughness, heart, talent, guts. That's what little girls are made of.

Bethany Hamilton

Your Daily Quote - Leader

"If your actions create a legacy that inspires others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more, then you are an excellent leader." 
Dolly Parton

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success - Law of Least Effort

No.4 The Law of Least Effort

Nature’s intelligence functions with effortless ease, harmony and love. When you harness those forces – of joy, harmony and love, we create success and good fortune easily and effortlessly.

How to apply it?

-       I will practice acceptance. Today I will accept people, events, circumstances as they occur.

-       Having accepted things as they are, I will take responsibility for my situation, and for the events I see as problems. This means not blaming anyone or anything, including myself.

-       Today I will let go of the need to defend my point of view, and not be attached to it.

Accept your day. Enjoy every minute...

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success - Law of Karma

No.3 The Law of Karma, or Cause and Effect

Every action generates a force of energy that return to us similar action. Sow the seeds of happiness, and happiness you shall receive. Karma implies the action of conscious choice-making.

How can you apply this law in your life? Make a commitment to:

-       Witness the choices you make in each moment. “The best way to prepare for any moment in the future is to be fully conscious in the present.”

-       When making a choice, ask yourself: “What is the consequence?”, and “Will this choice bring fulfillment and happiness to me and to those affected?”

-       I will ask my heart for guidance and be guided by its message of comfort or discomfort. This guidance will help me make spontaneously correct choices.

Elena Long

Your Coach to Success

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success - Deepak Chopra: Law of Giving

No. 2 The Law of Giving.

The universe operates through a dynamic exchange, through giving and receiving. This is how the energy frlow in the universe. When we give what we seek, we keep the abundance of the universe circulating within us.

How can you apply this law in your life?

- Whoever I encounter, I will give them a gift - a flower, a prayer, a compliment

- Today I will gratefully receive the gifts that life has to offer me - the sound of birds singing, a smile

- I will keep wealth circulating in my life by giving and receiving life's most precious gifts: caring, affection, appreciation and love.

Elena Long

Your Coach to Success

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success - Law of Pure Potentiality

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra are:

No. 1 The Law of Pure Potentiality. Our essential nature is of pure consciousness, infinite potentiality, therefore - pure joy.
How can you apply this law in your life?
- take time each day to be silent, to just BE
- commune with nature and silently witness the intelligence in every living thing
- practice non-judgement.

Elena Long

Your Coach to Success

Your Daily Quote - Anticipation

Anticipation is one of the ultimate powers. Losers react, leaders anticipate. 

Tony Robbins 

Your Daily Quote - Start from Now

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”– Carl Bard

Your Daily Quote - Excellence

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." 
- Aristotle 

Money and Worth

What's your worth?

Another powerful snippet of Michelle Master's workshop

Your Daily Quote - Don't Waste Your Present

“Let him who would enjoy a good future waste none of his present.”

Roger Babson

I guess this calls for great planning and goal setting skills!

Elena Long

Beliefs Filters

How does your belief system work, filtering only the experiences that align with it?

Your Daily Quote - Man of Value

Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.

Albert Einstein

Creating Stories and Metaphors for Change

Stories, or as we often call them, metaphors, are a very powerful tool not only when creating creating characters for novels and movies, but when we want to give a powerful example with a moral, and help create a lasting change. Story with a morale for the children - whether as a parent or a teacher, or our clients, in your role as a life coach.

Author Joseph Campbell studied myths and tales, and identified that most of them share the same "formula", which he called: The Hero's Journey.

Stages of the Hero's Journey

There are twelve steps to the hero’s journey:

1.      Ordinary World: This step refers to the hero's normal life at the start of the story, before the adventure begins. 

2.      Call to Adventure: The hero is faced with something that makes him begin his adventure. This might be a problem or a challenge he needs to overcome. 

3.      Refusal of the Call: The hero attempts to refuse the adventure because he is afraid. 

4.      Meeting with the Mentor: The hero encounters someone who can give him advice and ready him for the journey ahead.  

5.      Crossing the First Threshold: The hero leaves his ordinary world for the first time and crosses the threshold into adventure.  

6.      Tests, Allies, Enemies: The hero learns the rules of his new world. During this time, he endures tests of strength of will, meets friends, and comes face to face with foes.

7.      Approach: Setbacks occur, sometimes causing the hero to try a new approach or adopt new ideas. 

8.      Ordeal: The hero experiences a major hurdle or obstacle, such as a life or death crisis. 

9.      Reward: After surviving death, the hero earns his reward or accomplishes his goal. 

10.  The Road Back: The hero begins his journey back to his ordinary life.

11.  Resurrection Hero - The hero faces a final test where everything is at stake and he must use everything he has learned.  

12.  Return with Elixir:  The hero brings his knowledge or the "elixir" back to the ordinary world, where he applies it to help all who remain there.  


Here is a little task for you - can you track the steps of some famous characters and match them to the stages of the Hero’s Journey? The Lion King, or Fight Club, are great examples.

Storytelling is an art in itself, but what it is most powerful for, is the influence it can have on our lives in achieving a desired transformation that lasts and help you grow.

Elena Long

Your Coach to Success

The Habit Change Cheatsheet: 29 Ways to Successfully Ingrain a Behavior - part 2 of 2

BY LEO BABAUTA

6. Know your motivations, and be sure they’re strong. Write them down in your plan. You have to be very clear why you’re doing this, and the benefits of doing it need to be clear in your head. If you’re just doing it for vanity, while that can be a good motivator, it’s not usually enough. We need something stronger. For me, I quit smoking for my wife and kids. I made a promise to them. I knew if I didn’t smoke, not only would they be without a husband and father, but they’d be more likely to smoke themselves (my wife was a smoker and quit with me).

7. Don’t start right away. In your plan, write down a start date. Maybe a week or two from the date you start writing out the plan. When you start right away (like today), you are not giving the plan the seriousness it deserves. When you have a “Quit Date” or “Start Date”, it gives that date an air of significance. Tell everyone about your quit date (or start date). Put it up on your wall or computer desktop. Make this a Big Day. It builds up anticipation and excitement, and helps you to prepare.

8. Write down all your obstacles. If you’ve tried this habit change before (odds are you have), you’ve likely failed. Reflect on those failures, and figure out what stopped you from succeeding. Write down every obstacle that’s happened to you, and others that are likely to happen. Then write down how you plan to overcome them. That’s the key: write down your solution before the obstacles arrive, so you’re prepared.

9. Identify your triggers. What situations trigger your current habit? For the smoking habit, for example, triggers might include waking in the morning, having coffee, drinking alcohol, stressful meetings, going out with friends, driving, etc. Most habits have multiple triggers. Identify all of them and write them in your plan.

10. For every single trigger, identify a positive habit you’re going to do instead. When you first wake in the morning, instead of smoking, what will you do? What about when you get stressed? When you go out with friends? Some positive habits could include: exercise, meditation, deep breathing, organizing, decluttering, and more.

“Habit is habit, and not to be flung out of the window by any man, but coaxed downstairs a step at a time.” – Mark Twain

11. Plan a support system. Who will you turn to when you have a strong urge? Write these people into your plan. Support forums online are a great tool as well — I used a smoking cessation forum on about.com when I quit smoking, and it really helped. Don’t underestimate the power of support — it’s really important.

12. Ask for help. Get your family and friends and co-workers to support you. Ask them for their help, and let them know how important this is. Find an AA group in your area. Join online forums where people are trying to quit. When you have really strong urges or a really difficult time, call on your support network for help. Don’t smoke a cigarette, for example, without posting to your online quit forum. Don’t have a drop of alcohol before calling your AA buddy.

13. Become aware of self-talk. You talk to yourself, in your head, all the time — but often we’re not aware of these thoughts. Start listening. These thoughts can derail any habit change, any goal. Often they’re negative: “I can’t do this. This is too difficult. Why am I putting myself through this? How bad is this for me anyway? I’m not strong enough. I don’t have enough discipline. I suck.” It’s important to know you’re doing this.

14. Stay positive. You will have negative thoughts — the important thing is to realize when you’re having them, and push them out of your head. Squash them like a bug! Then replace them with a positive thought. “I can do this! If Leo can do it, so can I!” :)

15. Have strategies to defeat the urge. Urges are going to come — they’re inevitable, and they’re strong. But they’re also temporary, and beatable. Urges usually last about a minute or two, and they come in waves of varying strength. You just need to ride out the wave, and the urge will go away. Some strategies for making it through the urge: deep breathing, self-massage, eat some frozen grapes, take a walk, exercise, drink a glass of water, call a support buddy, post on a support forum.

16. Prepare for the sabotagers. There will always be people who are negative, who try to get you to do your old habit. Be ready for them. Confront them, and be direct: you don’t need them to try to sabotage you, you need their support, and if they can’t support you then you don’t want to be around them.

17. Talk to yourself. Be your own cheerleader, give yourself pep talks, repeat your mantra (below), and don’t be afraid to seem crazy to others. We’ll see who’s crazy when you’ve changed your habit and they’re still lazy, unhealthy slobs!

18. Have a mantra. For quitting smoking, mine was “Not One Puff Ever” (I didn’t make this up, but it worked — more on this below). When I wanted to quit my day job, it was “Liberate Yourself”. This is just a way to remind yourself of what you’re trying to do.

19. Use visualization. This is powerful. Vividly picture, in your head, successfully changing your habit. Visualize doing your new habit after each trigger, overcoming urges, and what it will look like when you’re done. This seems new-agey, but it really works.

20. Have rewards. Regular ones. You might see these as bribes, but actually they’re just positive feedback. Put these into your plan, along with the milestones at which you’ll receive them.

21. Take it one urge at a time. Often we’re told to take it one day at a time — which is good advice — but really it’s one urge at a time. Just make it through this urge.

22. Not One Puff Ever (in other words, no exceptions). This seems harsh, but it’s a necessity: when you’re trying to break the bonds between an old habit and a trigger, and form a new bond between the trigger and a new habit, you need to be really consistent. You can’t do it sometimes, or there will be no new bond, or at least it will take a really really long time to form. So, at least for the first 30 days (and preferably 60), you need to have no exceptions. Each time a trigger happens, you need to do the new habit and not the old one. No exceptions, or you’ll have a backslide. If you do mess up, regroup, learn from your mistake, plan for your success, and try again (see the last item on this list).

23. Get rest. Being tired leaves us vulnerable to relapse. Get a lot of rest so you can have the energy to overcome urges.

24. Drink lots of water. Similar to the item above, being dehydrated leaves us open to failure. Stay hydrated!

25. Renew your commitment often. Remind yourself of your commitment hourly, and at the beginning and end of each day. Read your plan. Celebrate your success. Prepare yourself for obstacles and urges.

26. Set up public accountability. Blog about it, post on a forum, email your commitment and daily progress to friend and family, post a chart up at your office, write a column for your local newspaper (I did this when I ran my first marathon). When we make it public — not just the commitment but the progress updates — we don’t want to fail.

27. Engineer it so it’s hard to fail. Create a groove that’s harder to get out of than to stay in: increase positive feedback for sticking with the habit, and increase negative feedback for not doing the habit. Read more on this method.

28. Avoid some situations where you normally do your old habit, at least for awhile, to make it a bit easier on yourself. If you normally drink when you go out with friends, consider not going out for a little while. If you normally go outside your office with co-workers to smoke, avoid going out with them. This applies to any bad habit — whether it be eating junk food or doing drugs, there are some situations you can avoid that are especially difficult for someone trying to change a bad habit. Realize, though, that when you go back to those situations, you will still get the old urges, and when that happens you should be prepared.

29. If you fail, figure out what went wrong, plan for it, and try again. Don’t let failure and guilt stop you. They’re just obstacles, but they can be overcome. In fact, if you learn from each failure, they become stepping stones to your success. Regroup. Let go of guilt. Learn. Plan. And get back on that horse.

Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones. – Benjamin Franklin

  

Source:

http://zenhabits.net/the-habit-change-cheatsheet-29-ways-to-successfully-ingrain-a-behavior/