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How to Deal with Rejection

by Elena Long

How often has the fear of being rejected, of being given the answer “no” stopped you from taking a step towards something you want? Maybe at uni you didn’t ask that gorgeous girl out for a coffee because you assumed she would say no? Or when you negotiated the terms of your new job you didn’t dare to ask about higher salary? Was there a project at work you wanted to get involved with, so that you could learn new skills, but you thought your manager would say you don’t have experience to be involved…

The truth is, if you don’t explore new possibilities, if you don’t get out of your comfort zone and take this moderate risk of getting “No” for an answer, you are raising barriers to your own development. And you will wonder for the rest of your life: “What if?”

One of the golden principles of personal development, life coaching and success is that how happy and fulfilled you are with your life is dependent not on what happens to you, but how you react to what life throws at you. Quite often the hiccups you encounter along your journey are just tests, areas that you need improvement in. You lack confidence when approaching girls? Then practice ten times a day. You can’t work with PowerPoint? Then volunteer and help prepare the presentation for the next workshop in the office, or with your study group.

What is the worst that can happen when you ask the question: “May I?” I love the example Jack Canfield gives in his book, The Success Principles. If you choose to apply to Harvard, but fear of rejection is stopping you, think twice. If the worst happens and they say “No”, would you be able to handle it? Of course you would – you have spent all your life NOT studying at Harvard, surely you know how to deal with that. And if you do get in – well, it was worth trying!

After all, Colonel Sanders got over 300 rejections before he found someone to believe in him and his special “KFC” chicken recipe. Nor did Sylvester Stallone get disheartened with ”No” after “No” for the script of the first Rocky, until United Artists agreed to produce the script on his terms, with Stallone getting the lead role.

So next time when you toss between: Should I, Should I not, think about that: “some will, some won’t – so what – someone’s waiting.” Or, the SWSWSWSW formula. If someone now says “No”, there still is someone out there waiting for you skills, your ideas, your smile, your contribution. Work your way out to getting there, one rejection at a time.

7 Steps to Embrace Personal Progress & Rise above Emotional Blockage: A Love Letter to You

By Kathleen O’Keefe-Kanavos

When was the last time you dreamed of success? 

 Each day is progress in this life-time. Yet, it is so easy to ignore all the positive things you have accomplished and focus on what still needs to be done to feel fulfilled. 

Fulfillment is a mind-set.

 Fulfillment is a state of thinking that manifests itself into a state of being—mind over matter. As human beings, we must be in the moment to see our past accomplishments.  

Accomplishments are the result of challenges.

During your most trying moments, what was the “cross you had to bear”?  Take a second to remember it. Now, focus on how you have risen above it?  Next, imagine being handed a gift box.  Peek inside.  See the gift left behind by the challenge.  This achievement is proof that you are a winner. The gift is a promise for a new day. Time for the next step— thanking your Inner-winner.

Focus on rising above the strife in a Love Letter to Yourself.

 Writing can help you be in the moment of triumph by putting abstract emotions into concrete words. You will celebrate with your inner-selves; those incredible aspects of yourself that you may not be aware of, but are always there for you. As you write, they will be reading the love letter through the windows of your soul—your eyes.  

By focusing on your accomplishments, your mind is set to create more positive results. 

 Your thoughts and memories can also bring to light your life-purpose and help you stay on the correct path to your Life Destiny. 

Here are 5 steps to write your Love Letter to Yourself:

 1.) Remember—You may be holding the pen, but Inner Wisdom is guiding the words. Let them flow.

 Although a hand written letter may be more therapeutic, a typed one works well, too.  The importance is not in HOW you connect with yourself but THAT you connect with yourself.

A Love Letter to You is a simple letter to all the inner aspects of yourself — Inner Wisdom, Inner Knowing, Spirit, God, or the Higher Power of your choice.  Your letter can be addressed to any name that resonates with you.

          2.) Start with a phrase of gratitude, Mantra, or Blessing at the top of your letter. 

Write a phrase or mantra that has power for you. This is your letter heading.

It can be acknowledgment of your Inner Winner. Acknowledging gratitude is one of your most powerful healing and connecting energies. Your mantra/phrase will reflect that principle. If you do not have a personal phrase of gratitude, borrow one that most resonates with you.

  3.) Today’s Date –Dating your letter helps ground you in the moment while you visit the past. The past is a great place to visit.  But, don’t live there.  

 4.)  Salutation – Dear, your name, or Inner Winner, etc.   Address the letter to whomever feels right to you. Imagine sending a  private message or group email to all your best friends.  This can be one, many, or all your Inner-people who are responsible for helping you succeed.

 5.)  The Body of the Letter – Write whatever feels right to you. Let it all out, but try to start and end on a positive note.  You may want to start with: 

     “Thank you for all you have done for me.” 

 6.)  Sign your name. Feel free to use a name you can embrace as the new you rather than your given name. The Love Letter is to you. You’ll get it.

  

If you need more guidance for your letter, use my example of what your Love Letter might look like and fill in the blanks:

  

“I am grateful for any opportunity to connect with my Inner-winner.”

April, 9, 2015

Dear Inner Winner,

Thank you for all you have done for me.  

I remember when ____________________________________ 

Then you helped me _________________________________

We worked together by _______________________________

Now, these positive things have happened to manifest the promise of a wonderful future ______

Love,

(sign your name) Super Kat

 7.) What to do with your Love Letter. You may either save the letter and read it whenever you need to reconnect with your Inner-winner, or you may perform a ritualistic act of sharing.  If you  save it, put it in a place that is easily accessible, like your wallet. Take it out and read it when you need it. 

Send it to yourself in a personal email, or post it on a blog where your love and gratitude can be shared with many.

 Burning is a ritual act of sharing. It uses fire to cleanse away any residual negativity and allows smoke to carry the message of gratitude to your Higher Power.  The ashes left behind will be fertile ground for new positive thoughts and deeds just like the mythical bird the Phoenix.

So, take a minute out of your busy time to reflect on what you have done to leave a positive foot-print on someone’s heart or in the sands-of-time. Find that hidden gift in your mind.  Write it in a love letter to YOU because you deserve it.

Then watch for answers and validation from your Inner-winner in your dreams.

Original article:

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/aboveandbeyondthe5senses/2014/04/7-steps-to-embrace-personal-progress-rise-above-emotional-blockage-an-easter-love-letter-to-you/

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SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE PLAN BACKWARDS

“Begin with the end in mind.” Stephen Covey

Successful people get results faster. But do they work more efficiently, or more effectively?

If you want to succeed, it’s not enough to work hard, and be constantly busy. You first need to have clarity of your goals, of your direction. Only when you know where you are going, you can identify what steps to take. Because otherwise it’s easy to get caught up in the “activity vicious circle”. And as an added “bonus”, if you are busy and work hard, but in the wrong direction, you will be moving further from your dreams, faster.

Every achievement starts with a plan, with a blueprint. When you go on a trip, before you even start planning the details, you decide on the destination. And only then you decide on the means of transport, what the stopovers are, and what to pack. When you build a house, the blueprint comes after the clarity of the concept – what kind of house, and what would be of high importance: functionality, number or size of the rooms, is it family–oriented, or what you want is creative peace and quiet?

And this vision ultimately reflects what is important to you in life.

So, here are the steps of drawing your plans, starting with the end result, the goal:

1.       Align your goal with your values – for what purpose do you want to achieve it?

What will YOU gain as a result of achieving that goal? Success, more time with the family, independence?

What is crucial is that what you want to achieve and what you do to get there, does not violate the criteria you have about what is supremely important to you. And that it contributes in a meaningful way to the vision you have of your life as a whole.

2.       Define what feeling achieving that goal will that give you: freedom, achievement, empowerment, love, recognition?

The stronger emotional attachment you have to the outcome of your actions, the more dedicated and motivated your unconscious, and conscious, minds are to achieving the results.

3.       What are the steps to get there?

Chunk down the final outcome into achievable, measurable and feasible steps. And beware of the “busy vs effective” approach.

4.       Now, write down the goal, in the present tense.

“It is 31 December 2015 and I have established a successful brand…”

As an essential part to step 4, it is very important to link the result to the feeling (of success, of freedom, of accomplishment, of contribution, of sharing love). Because this is your fuel to achieving a successful outcome, and battling through challenges, fears, unknown factors.

There are two reasons behind this power of your feelings. Tony Robbins often talks about the fact that we, as human beings, have two main drives in everything we do. We either do things to avoid pain, or to gain pleasure. Of course, in setting up your goals, you can factor in what will NOT happen if you do not achieve these goals. And, you can double-up the effect by adding the positive charge that the achievement will give you.

And, secondly, being in a positive state gives you access to multiple resources within you. Being in the state of happiness, feeling empowered, gives you not only the ability to believe in your own skills, but also the ability to reach for these skills when you need them the most, on your way to success.

So, get a pen and start defining your next achievement, and what it will mean to you.

Elena Alexandrova

Your Coach to Success

www.envisionlifedesign.com.au

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